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I didn’t start this to motivate men. I started it because I couldn’t ignore what I kept seeing—
successful men quietly drifting through lives that no longer felt like theirs.

For a long time, my life looked good from the outside.

Career moving.
Responsibilities handled.
No obvious crisis.

And yet—something felt off.

Not broken.
Not dramatic.
Just… off.

I did what most men do.
I pushed harder.
I stayed busy.
I told myself this was just how adulthood worked.

But the longer I ignored it, the quieter—and heavier—that feeling became.

That’s when I realized something most men aren’t taught:

You don’t lose yourself all at once.
You lose yourself slowly—by tolerating what no longer fits.

As I paid attention, I noticed the pattern wasn’t just mine.

Men everywhere were:

• Doing what they were “supposed” to do
• Carrying responsibility well
• Succeeding on paper

…while feeling disconnected, numb, or restless inside.

Not because they were weak.
Not because they lacked discipline.

But because no one ever taught them how to pause, orient, and choose honestly in important moments.

Most advice told men to push forward.

What we needed first was a way to figure out where we actually were.

The breakthrough wasn’t a bold move or dramatic overhaul.

It was learning to slow down long enough to ask better questions.

Questions like:

• What am I actually leaving behind?
• What am I stepping toward?
• Where am I feeling off—and why?

Clarity didn’t come from confidence.
It came from honesty.

And once I had that?
Decisions stopped feeling forced.
Action started to make sense again.

This platform—and the book Own Your Shift—exist for one reason:

To help men stop living on autopilot and start navigating their lives with clarity, courage, and self-trust.

Not through hype.
Not through gurus.
Not through therapy jargon.

But through grounded thinking, practical frameworks, and honest reflection.

This work is for men who:

• Are capable, but restless
• Are responsible, but disconnected
• Feel a pull toward something more—but can’t yet name it

I believe:

• Feeling lost isn’t failure—it’s orientation
• Understanding matters more than motivation
• Strength includes honesty, not just endurance
• You don’t need a master plan—just the next honest step

And most importantly:

You’re not behind.
You’re at a turning point.

If any part of this resonates, you’re in the right place.

You don’t need to blow up your life.
You don’t need to have it all figured out.

You just need to know where you are—and be willing to move forward honestly.

That’s what this work is about.

— M.L. Higgins
Author of Own Your Shift